entrepreneurship, mental health

Balancing Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

You know what they don’t tell you about entrepreneurship — the hardest part is managing your mental health.

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And yes, I just dived right into the deep end because there’s no reason to sugarcoat it. The entrepreneurship journey is hard AF! I don’t care how social media makes it seem, it is difficult. And honestly, it’s not even the business part that’s difficult, it’s the mental discipline you need to keep going.

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If you are new to entrepreneurship — meaning you don’t have any family and/or friends you’ve witnessed firsthand do this successfully — you are literally starting from ground zero. No one tells you how difficult it is to start from that point. I see why the data shows that 20% of new businesses fail within their first year and 50% won’t even make it to their five-year mark. That means if you and I start a business today, in 5 years, one of our businesses will fail if it didn’t fail within the first. 

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Starting from zero requires you to literally build everything up brick by brick – INCLUDING YOUR MENTAL and that’s extremely difficult when you do not have a blueprint. I wish my parents already had a business in motion where all I needed to do was pick up where they left off. Unfortunately, that’s not how this story goes. 

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What makes it even harder is, that when your peers are not entrepreneurs, they don’t really know how to support you mentally. Even their words of encouragement sound like bombs over Baghdad. “It’ll get better” “You’re going to be just fine” “This is just the beginning”. I know they mean well and I understand the need to see the big picture but I currently live in the present where everything is overwhelming. There are so many moving parts on this journey and getting a hold of your mental health is essential for survival. 

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For all those that are trying to figure out how to get a grip, I challenge you to (1) revisit your why and (2) intentionally do things that help calm your mind. There was a reason you started this journey and if that reason means anything to you, it will always keep you focused on the big picture. In regards to doing things that calm your mind, I know from personal experience that anxiety takes center stage when too many things are trying to make themselves a priority. It starts to feel like there is always so much to do, always so little time, and never enough manpower. So I like doing things that calm my mind and keep me in the present. For me, those things look like working out, going for a walk, a bike ride, a run or a swim, doing puzzles, journaling my thoughts and prayers, and setting up a time to do absolutely nothing. 

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It is perfectly fine to want to quit but it is not okay to not put the effort into trying to take care of yourself. I live by the motto “if you are not at 100%, nothing you do will be at 100%.” So when you get a hold of your mental, you realize that anything is possible and then you can give this journey the energy you need. 

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I will be doing another post about ways you can manage your time to prevent being overwhelmed but in the meantime, let’s focus on learning how to breathe and building our mental discipline.

Until Next Time,

LOLATHEMANAGER

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Life After High School: To Stay or To Leave? That Is The Question

Graduating high school is the stepping stone for all the major milestones you will achieve in life. Why? Because school has literally consumed at least 13 years of your life (K-12) and that diploma is equivalent to saying “I am ready to take on the world.”

As discussed in my last Life After High School post, figuring out what to do after high school can be exciting, overwhelming, and sometimes depressing. You just spent the last 13 years of your life raising your hand to ask to go to the restroom and now you are expected to make real-world decisions like who should run our country and where to invest your money.

Today, I want to focus on students/graduates who are debating if they should leave the nest or stay there. The nest being – HOME! Let me preface this with the fact that I left home two weeks after I graduated high school to start my collegiate career. I will try my best to NOT be biased but to share my truth, experience, and suggestions. Also, these reasons are not listed in any particular order.

Reasons to Leave the Nest

(1) It Forces You To Become Responsible

Let’s face it! You have been wanting to be treated as an adult since you were like 13 years old. Now you can be! Gone are the days when your parents are banging on your door to wake you up for school or nagging you about doing your homework. Gone are the days when you have to ask your parents for permission to go to the movies or even money to go to the movies. Gone are the days when you have to check in with your parents if you want to spend the night at your friend’s place. Granted, leaving does not mean your parents will not be there to help you in your transition into responsible adulthood, but know that the training wheels are off.

(2) It Pushes You Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Unless you grew up in a family that travels for fun or participated in out-of-county / out-of-state field trips with your school, chances are you probably have not left your neighborhood. We are creatures of comfort and habit. You do not know what you can handle and what is out there if you never GO! Life begins at the end of your comfort zone so start living.

(3) It Exposes You To Different People

Have you ever seen the movie Vantage Point? In short, it is a movie about an assassination attempt on a U.S. president and there are witnesses all recounting what they saw from their point of view. Go check it out if you have a chance. It came out my senior year of high school – 2008! But anywho, that movie is how I see people of this world. We all are experiencing life differently, seeing things differently, and even feeling things differently. So I love meeting new people because there is always something to learn. Leaving home exposes you to people who may have lived a life completely opposite of yours or someone who lived a life identical, yet, so different. Go out and meet new people! You might just meet your new best friend.

(4) It Provides You More Privacy

Living at home as a child and living at home as an adult is completely different. TRUST ME!!!! As a child, you probably wanted to stay up late to watch television or go hang out with friends and were given a curfew. As an adult, you DO NOT want that curfew. You want the freedom to do whatever you want without regard to how anyone feels about it. Depending on your relationship with your parents and how they want things in their house, your privacy may be extremely limited.

Now, I know you are reading this like, “these are nice but there are reasons not to leave the nest too.” And I completely agree with that sentiment. Maybe one day I’ll write about that but today, I just want you to consider why environmental change can be good.

Best,

LOLA THE MANAGER