entrepreneurship, mental health

Balancing Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

You know what they don’t tell you about entrepreneurship — the hardest part is managing your mental health.

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And yes, I just dived right into the deep end because there’s no reason to sugarcoat it. The entrepreneurship journey is hard AF! I don’t care how social media makes it seem, it is difficult. And honestly, it’s not even the business part that’s difficult, it’s the mental discipline you need to keep going.

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If you are new to entrepreneurship — meaning you don’t have any family and/or friends you’ve witnessed firsthand do this successfully — you are literally starting from ground zero. No one tells you how difficult it is to start from that point. I see why the data shows that 20% of new businesses fail within their first year and 50% won’t even make it to their five-year mark. That means if you and I start a business today, in 5 years, one of our businesses will fail if it didn’t fail within the first. 

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Starting from zero requires you to literally build everything up brick by brick – INCLUDING YOUR MENTAL and that’s extremely difficult when you do not have a blueprint. I wish my parents already had a business in motion where all I needed to do was pick up where they left off. Unfortunately, that’s not how this story goes. 

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What makes it even harder is, that when your peers are not entrepreneurs, they don’t really know how to support you mentally. Even their words of encouragement sound like bombs over Baghdad. “It’ll get better” “You’re going to be just fine” “This is just the beginning”. I know they mean well and I understand the need to see the big picture but I currently live in the present where everything is overwhelming. There are so many moving parts on this journey and getting a hold of your mental health is essential for survival. 

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For all those that are trying to figure out how to get a grip, I challenge you to (1) revisit your why and (2) intentionally do things that help calm your mind. There was a reason you started this journey and if that reason means anything to you, it will always keep you focused on the big picture. In regards to doing things that calm your mind, I know from personal experience that anxiety takes center stage when too many things are trying to make themselves a priority. It starts to feel like there is always so much to do, always so little time, and never enough manpower. So I like doing things that calm my mind and keep me in the present. For me, those things look like working out, going for a walk, a bike ride, a run or a swim, doing puzzles, journaling my thoughts and prayers, and setting up a time to do absolutely nothing. 

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It is perfectly fine to want to quit but it is not okay to not put the effort into trying to take care of yourself. I live by the motto “if you are not at 100%, nothing you do will be at 100%.” So when you get a hold of your mental, you realize that anything is possible and then you can give this journey the energy you need. 

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I will be doing another post about ways you can manage your time to prevent being overwhelmed but in the meantime, let’s focus on learning how to breathe and building our mental discipline.

Until Next Time,

LOLATHEMANAGER

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This Time Last Year

It’s crazy how time works. Yesterday, I didn’t know what was going to happen today and today I don’t know what is going to happen tomorrow. So when I reflect back to a year ago, I’m like – OH SHXT, A LOT HAS HAPPENED SINCE THIS TIME LAST YEAR!

Now this is a story all about how

My life got flipped turned upside down

And I’d like to take a minute, just sit right there

I’ll tell you how I became a BOSS BXXXH in a year

I know, you started rapping those lyrics and then realized I hit you with a remix. Lo Siento! Not Really 🙂 

This time last year, my teaching certification expired (6/30/2019) and I was officially unemployed. My business was official on paper (got my LLC on 6/1/2019) but I wasn’t doing official business or making official money. I was in grad school pursuing my Masters in Education. I was still weaning off the worst relationship life had to offer. And I was struggling with depression and anxiety. When I tell you my life was a hot ass mess, that’s an understatement.

This time last year, there was NO WAY that I could see myself as the woman I am today. If you know me, you know I am a planner. My Type A personality allows me to be a high key perfectionist so I plan everything out. I even plan for contingencies. However, I could not plan for the pit I found myself in. My life was filled with darkness and cloudy days so my optimism went on a long vacation. 

This time last year, I didn’t know that I would be pursuing multiple streams of income instead of just one job. I didn’t know that I would be unemployed for FIVE MONTHS (finally got a job 12/2/2019) before I found a job in my career field and that job would not even pay me my worth. I didn’t know that I would have to go through that experience to build the mindset that I NEVER WANT TO BE DEPENDENT ON ONE STREAM OF INCOME EVER AGAIN. It was such a struggle. I didn’t realize how I was setting myself up for failure by planning so one-dimensionally with my finances.

This time last year, I was offering Virtual Assistant and Social Media Management Services. I didn’t know that I would now be a Social Media Manager and Web Designer. That Virtual Assistant thing was just not my jam. I didn’t know that I would use my gift as an Educator to create courses that teach people how to manage social media instead of hiring someone to do it for them. I didn’t know that I would start TWO e-commerce stores (and end up shutting one down but the other one is gaining traction.) I didn’t know that I would be breaking ceilings and re-shaping my family’s history. 

This time last year, I didn’t know I would kick depression in the face and take back control of my life. I didn’t know that I would find joy in the simpler things in life and that I would be preparing to move out-of-state in two weeks. I didn’t know that I would get the opportunity to experience love in my lowest of days. I didn’t know that I would be this strong ass boss bxxxh that takes each day by the horns and finds opportunities where people see obstacles. The list can go on and on and on. At the end of the day, I just could not fathom that I would be where I am today in my personal and professional life. So now it’s time to set some goals for this time next year.

This time next year, I will have over 7 streams of income not including my career job as a High School Teacher and those streams will be equal to or greater than my teacher salary. I will continue to flourish in my mental health and find more healthy ways to care for myself mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. I will be in a healthy relationship that will make all my past relationships look like child’s play. I will be so in love with the new city/state that I am moving to, that I begin the process to buy my first home there. This time next year, I’ll look back at this blog post like WTF, I ACTUALLY DID THAT SHXT and I can’t wait for that moment!

Until Next Time, or should I say Next Year

LOLATHEMANAGER